I've tried nearly every purported fix, system, or solution available (you should see my Gmail labels), and I've long since concluded the best fix is to take a deep breath and accept that email will never be amazing, but that with an app you like, it won't be a burden.
I've spent more time tinkering with email than any person should. I've used email since 1995 (my dad set up the account for me because I was five years old), and I've worked fully remotely since 2012.